The pace of weight gain in recovery, and how to increase your intake in a way you can actually sustain.
One of the most common questions in recovery is how much you should eat at the start, and how quickly you should increase. There are two main approaches: starting low and going slow, or going all in as fast as possible. The answer might surprise you — while the start-low-and-go-slow approach is still widely used, the limited research out there paints a different picture.
The faster approach may actually have more benefits. You want to get your body to a healthy state as fast as possible, and leave the eating disorder behind as fast as possible. That's true for physical reasons, but also for mental and psychological ones: the less time you spend in restriction, the less time disordered thoughts and behaviours have to become super ingrained. Even if you feel like they already have, following this approach is worth it.
I gained over 40 pounds — 20 kilos — during my recovery, and it didn't happen by accident. I used meal plans and guidelines to make sure I was eating enough, and I found that structure genuinely helpful. The right plan gives you the framework, and then you adapt it to make it work for you so it stays sustainable and fun.
I did eventually reach a point where I was eating around 5,000 calories a day, including plenty of meal replacement shakes. That isn't a target for everyone — it's an example of what a body in recovery can need. The principle is the same at every intake: if you're not gaining, you need more energy in, and there are practical ways to get there without making yourself miserable.
There is no set amount that makes you recovered. I get asked what BMI you need to be, and honestly I think BMI is a fairly flawed measure — it doesn't distinguish between muscle and fat, and it says nothing about your individual body. What matters is reaching your set point weight: the weight your body naturally defends. Once you're there, your metabolism catches up, and the amounts you're eating become the amounts you maintain on.
The gaining phase does end. I was convinced I'd have to restrict forever to maintain my weight once I reached my goal — I never did. You can gain weight on any diet, vegan or otherwise, and meal planning can make it far easier. The goal is not a number; it's food freedom.
As fast as you possibly can, while still keeping it sustainable. The research points to a faster approach having more benefits than starting low and going slow. You want to get your body to a healthy state as quickly as possible, both for physical reasons and so that disordered thoughts and behaviours don't have as much time to become ingrained.
Quickly, without freaking the eating disorder out so much that you take one step forward and two steps back. Going all in early on is better than gradually increasing, because the longer you stay in restriction, the longer your body stays in a stressed, starved state and the more time the ED has to dig in. Fast is better.
Focus on energy density rather than volume. Add full-fat products, cook with oils, and swap lower-fat or 'diet' foods for the real versions. Smoothies and drinkable calories are your friend, and meal replacement shakes can be a convenient way to add calories. Make small, sustainable swaps to meals you already enjoy.
There is no set amount. I gained over 40 pounds in my recovery, but what matters is reaching your own set point weight — the weight your body naturally defends. BMI is a very limited measure and says little about an individual body. Work with your treatment team, and keep going until your body, hunger and health signals tell you you're there.
They can be a really useful tool. I had a love-hate relationship with them — they're convenient, need no prep, and can be added on top of meals and snacks. Some don't taste great and they can be filling, but as a way to get extra energy in without more chewing, they helped me a lot early in recovery.
No. Once you reach your set point weight and your metabolism speeds back up, the amounts you eat are the amounts you maintain on. Your body defends the weight range it likes to stay in, cranking your metabolism up if you go overboard and increasing hunger if you restrict. The gaining phase ends.